Thursday, October 2, 2008

Is He/She Your Lifetime Partner?

Ever wonder will you spend the rest of your time with the person you are with now? Still hesitating whether that person is the right one for you? Everyone has their own way of thinking which type of person suits them the most. Lately, I came up with something and I wanna share with everyone.

Everyone will get married eventually. Life is not complete without a family and to have our own cute little babies. If I plan to spend the rest of my lifetime with a girl, she will be my children's mother and my children might be just like my wife whom I'm proud of. Believing that she is my other half, she can take good care of our family.

So, whether he/she is your lifetime partner or not, think of that person and ask yourself these two questions.

1) Will you want him/her to be your children's parent? Yes/No?

2) Will you want your child to be just like your partner? Yes/No?

Personally, I been thinking of a few girls and asked myself the two questions. Actually, it's not easy for me to find a girl that I can answer both YES. I take a girl as a comparison. She's actually my friend's gf xD but I admire her alot. I'm not gonna mention her name, obviously! :P

1) Will you want him/her to be your children's parent?
Yes, she can be my children's parent. She's a well organized girl and I believe she can take good care of the family, like what's she's doing for her bf and her family.

2) Will you want your child to be just like your partner?
Yes, but! She's kinda not active in sports. I want my children to be more active in sports and pick up musical instruments. However, I believe she would want the same and encourage our children to be active in sports and musics :)

If you can answer both Yes with minimal changes that you believe your partner can adapt to it, then she/he might be the right person for you.

However, if you answer either question a No, most probably that person might not be your life time partner.

Once, I knew a few girls and I know they can't be my lifetime partner. I clearly know that if I were to be with them, eventually we will go our separate ways. Having such thought, will I still go on and be in a relationship with her? Obviously, until now I chose not too. I'm too old for short term relationship xD

If I chose to be with her regardless of the future, I'm just being with her for the sake having someone. Human beings are weak. We need people to care for us and people for us to care for. However, knowing that the relationship will not last long I won't put effort into the relationship. Which explains why I can't be in a short term relationship.

We may have a few relationships before we find our soul mate. Every minute of our lives counts. If you can love a person for even only a day, you may choose to love and enjoy the very moment. But if you the person is not the right one for you to love, don't go further. You may make a decision that's more hurtful than happy.

4 comments:

TNH said...

Well..i feel that thing like this really very hard to predict no matter how much question you ask..you will never know what going to happen tommorow

Wei Keen said...

Yep. True also. So sometimes we'll just let things be instead of asking too much questions lo ^^

-color of the sky - said...

thought of that before, and realize i that i dont wanna get married. :D

Anonymous said...

huh? i thought you admire your pui-jie~ ngek ngek ngek

babe...life is NOT so easy and simple. you will know it when you getting older.

anyway, just be faithful to your love and listen to your heart.